This was so interesting! I'm an ace who doesn't like to drink/do drugs, has no interest in finding a romantic/sexual partner, and isn't crazy about loud dance music. So I've never been involved in nightlife because...what is there for me? If I'm not going to be dancing/drinking/flirting, then I'd just be sitting there like a bump on a log, harshing other people's vibes.
I don't begrudge anyone else nightlife, but I wish there were more spaces where queer people get together to do...other things. Just hang out, play games, talk, eat, etc. The only physical queer spaces I've found that aren't nightlife are explicitly political, and while I am a member of those and value them a lot, I'd like to be able to socialize too.
This was so interesting! I'm an ace who doesn't like to drink/do drugs, has no interest in finding a romantic/sexual partner, and isn't crazy about loud dance music. So I've never been involved in nightlife because...what is there for me? If I'm not going to be dancing/drinking/flirting, then I'd just be sitting there like a bump on a log, harshing other people's vibes.
I don't begrudge anyone else nightlife, but I wish there were more spaces where queer people get together to do...other things. Just hang out, play games, talk, eat, etc. The only physical queer spaces I've found that aren't nightlife are explicitly political, and while I am a member of those and value them a lot, I'd like to be able to socialize too.